To better guide you into My trap, here is a detailed explanation of how serving Me long distance and all My different pages work. They are DIFFERENT, each designed to offer a different facet of My many play styles and needs as a Queen.
A queen of depravity.
Long Distance Service
My favorite ways to play with subs long distance are online chat, phone calls, and one on one cam sessions. This is always done through a verified, dedicated online play platform where all the annoying logistics are handled by the site. I will never ask you to play via email, or a phone number off platform – if this is happening you may be speaking to someone other than myself. Follow My instructions closely and we can stay in touch all the time, and I can control you every single day through that magic rectangle in your pocket. The purpose you crave is here, at My feet. Now that you are where you belong, your next few steps are crucial.
First, determine your capabilities as a sub: where do you thrive as My pet and what can you truly sacrifice? Think about which of your talents actually translate to virtual service and whether your proficiency with them meets My high expectations.
Next decide on your big two, time and wealth. How much time and how much money you can spend on serving Me makes all the difference in our dynamic. Take a moment to check your schedule and budget before you decide how to approach Me.
Should you wish to embellish your service and really catch My eye, consider creating new online accounts under My referrals and inscribed with My influence over you – “ slave2Devi “ is a wonderful user name…
Platform Options
The following pages offer ways for us to chat, and exchange power, from you to Me. I have intentionally set them up differently for the most convenient types of online play. Please choose the one you like best and stick with it. Switching platforms is fine, but using two simultaneously makes it hard for Me to keep track of our conversations. A good pet makes life easier for its Mistress.
Only Fans – Chat with Me any time! A Treasure trove of all platform compliant content: Femdom, cosplay, performing arts, and risque/lewd media on My wall. Only Fans is My favorite site for hardcore Femdom sexting, deep gooning sessions, and keeping you obsessed and spiraling to Me forever. This is the best option for needy subs who need My attention often as I am most active in chat there – but be warned, My appetite for total domination over you is big and expensive.
Loyal Fans – BDSM Scene Content – the rules here are more relaxed, so I can post my more extreme content on my wall. Ask any TOS compliant questions you may have in the free chat when you become a subscriber. Order custom fantasy content or buy videos a la carte if I am AFK. Check back often for live cam. This is the best option for those who like to see My premium content at their leisure and support me with occasional tributes but are too shy or busy for long chats.
SextPanther – My most extreme, sadistic side. Plunging My victims into the depths of degradation bliss on voice calls. Pulling your puppet strings all day with an IV drip of texts, voice notes and tantalizing visuals. Request custom fantasy content in a relaxed chat setting. Call Me directly to hear My hypnotic voice and declare your darkest desires. And my favorite feature: Show Me your devotion on a one on one video call! This is the best option for those craving real-time voice and video intimacy with Me.
How to Approach
Once you have chosen the site you would like to connect with Me on and made your flattering username account, load it up full of coins and craft your first message to Me. Remember to include interesting information about yourself such as your kinks, your experience, and how it is you have become helplessly enthralled by My dominant aura. Other things you should include are your general availability to perform submissive tasks for Me, and your limits, including your budget if you have one.
Note that approaching with a simple greeting or falling right into a complex role play without a warning can both feel unsatisfying as I may not know exactly how to best guide you to My desires without context.
Should you be forced to close an account and start anew, be sure to introduce yourself properly and remind me who you are as I may not initially recognize your similar but different username. This is especially true if there was a break between leaving the platform and restarting the new account and there was no warning for me to watch for these events.
Rules
Only well behaved pets get My interest, and not knowing the rules is no excuse for breaking them. While this is by no way an exhaustive list, the rules of MOST platforms are as follows:
Absolutely NO discussion mentioning – Real time meetings – Minors or pretending to be underage – Anything involving animals – Most bodily fluids – Hypnosis – CNC
It is your responsibility to learn the platform of your choice’s limitations and boundaries and do your best to stay within them. Failure to do so can get you or the model banned and most models will simply block you to avoid the risk to their page.
Do not try to circumvent banned words by using symbols or misspelling them, the filter CAN see this and will weigh it harder as it is considered deliberate breaking of the rules. If a word is banned for a meaning different than the one you wish to mention, use a synonym or describe what you are talking about without using the specific banned word.
Expectations
A schedule of My upcoming chat times can be seen posted on My wall. If one is not currently up, send along a message and ask Me what My current chat times are. I’m always eager to schedule your demise if not immediately available.
Since I am solely running My sites, My limited chat capacity will be distributed to those who splurge on Me first, remember this as you await My next reply…
For your planning convenience, be prepared to budget at least $100 for a gratifying chat session with kinky pics, vids and voice mails exchange. Of course, the price will vary up or down depending on if you are simply checking in with a well wish, or wanting to stay and play for a long, delightful time.
Investment considerations
Time Are you a kink graser? Do you prefer a steady stream of small bits of My deviance throughout the day? Or are you craving the dark abandon of a long, draining, goon hole at My command? Perhaps you wish to call Me and bask in My velvet voice or be graced by my beauty on a video call, then you should add me to your contact list now. The time you spend on Me should be balanced to the time you spend working for Me. As My property I demand that you maintain healthy habits so that I may enjoy sinking My teeth into you as deep and as long as I want.
Wealth True power exchange thrives on financial submission. A true devotee keeps a special account for Me, and allows Me the decadence of wrecking it again and again and again. Consider this another toy, in My box of pleasure. As My power grows so will your offerings, elevating My pleasure from your service to new heights.
If tributes and gifts are accessible to you, prioritize budgeting as much as possible for Me. Spend often on My YouPay, Amazon, and Throne.
Should none of this be your current reality – I have compiled a list of some other ways to serve that cost you nothing but effort.
I expect all my subject to budget appropriately and serve Me responsibly
Everything you need to begin is in front of you, beckoning you to fulfil your destiny as My owned, controlled property. All you have to do now is approach.
To some, service is a calling. Being a part of something grand and spending the days working towards a greater purpose holds the meaning of life and existance. If that is you, you may be a service submissive in search of a stable to belong to. Many have approached me for this honorable position in my almost two decades in BDSM. The following is what I have learned works best for me and those who are accepted under my rule.
BDSM is a big part of my life, but it is not my entire life, and a delicate balance must be upheld for my work to prosper and be the integral part of my community that I dream of it being. My days and times of rest are sacred to me, and should never be interrupted by misplaced excitement. My sympathy and gratitude for such situations is deep and complex, and it is of great importance that I protect my energy for the sake of my ambitions seeing the light of day and becoming the future opportunities of fantasy come to life for my submissives and community. With this in mind, I have created a rough outline of my needs as a Domme in any sub wishing to serve me’s journey. Revisions and additions to these will come as time passes, and I am always open to questions and concerns regarding my rules and expectations. Consider this your resource for what is most comfortable for me, your Mistress.
What is a Service Submissive?
A service submissive is a person who derives pleasure and fulfillment from providing helpful labor for their dominant.
– Tasks completed for me are not a trade for my time, energy, or attention, and should satiate your need for purpose by virtue of being done for me so that I may enjoy more time to myself. I may choose to reward good behavior and hard, selfless work, and often do, but I am not required or expected to.
– My submissives will always place me first, after they have tended to their own needs. It is of great importance that you feel rested and confident when serving me to maintain a healthy relationship. Service and BDSM are in no way a replacement for physical or mental health care, and any such needs should be addressed with the appropriate professional outside of our relationship. I care deeply for my submissives, but I am not equipped to help them with personal or emotional hardships and will responsibly decline to be involved past a supportive friend-like role in your healing. While holding space would be my privilege, I cannot do so on a whim and expect you to schedule talk time with me at my convenience.
Service Submissive Expectations
Some expectations to keep the power exchange dynamic fluid:
Keeping a Journal
The slave journal should be concise, and used as a tool for reflection for both the slave and the Mistress. Create an entry within the first 3 days of any meeting, scene or casual. Keep entries under 3 minutes of reading. Include the following recollections:
– How were you feeling immediately preceding the last meeting?
– What was your favorite part of the meeting?
– Were there any parts you disliked or found difficult, and if this is accessible to you, why?
– What stood out to you the most if different from the above two?
– How did you feel immediately and in the few days after the meeting?
Fitness Expectations
Physical expectations of submissives are always realistic. Be sure you are able to easily and safely perform any of the tasks and activities that either party expects during meetings and scenes. The fear of a frail slave suffering an injury during kink play is real and unfair to bestow upon the object of your worship. If you need help and motivation getting into shape, I would be happy to integrate that into your training with me.
Health Expectations
BDSM requires effective communication and a stable mindset. If you have ANY health issues, address them ahead of any intense kink endeavors.
Mental health is of utmost importance to me. I expect good care to be taken to not have any personal baggage affect my ability to enjoy my time in scenes or during casual meetings with you.
If an emotional trigger is hit, I expect the submissive to pause or end the scene and have a discussion or some words of closure before tending to their needs. I am happy to listen and offer sympathy or explore routes of action with you, but I am not a mental health professional and will not practice such a complex discipline for any reason.
If triggers are being hit often and emotional dysregulation interrupts or sours our time together too many times I may ask that you take a break from our arrangement, seek professional help, and return when you feel that you have gained more ground and control of your wellbeing.
Behavior Expectations
I expect a positive and well adjusted attitude at all of our meetings. Respectful compliments are always welcome and a good way to promote an upbeat vibe. Do your best not to overstep any boundaries with personal questions, unless they are needed for an important discussion, or overstay your welcome, or milk the clock for extra time during goodbyes. Some of these can be honest mistakes and difficult to catch at the moment, and I have a lot of patience and understanding for that. However, repeated offenses will breed anxiety and drain my energy and overall damage the trust in the relationship. If you are going through a difficult time, and simply need a sympathetic ear, communicate this before our meeting so that I can better prepare to hold space for you.
Availability
What is a realistic amount of time serving your Mistress can take up? Communicate this clearly by offering your schedule, preferably weekly on Wednesday or Thursday for the following week.
I am generally unavailable for in depth communication most weeks Friday – Sunday. Casual pleasantries are acceptable. “Thinking of You, worshiping You!” is ok so long as the is no expectation for a reply. Asking me to consider favors or tasks is best brought up Monday – Thursday or during in person meetings.
I am ok with approved visits to other Mistresses so long as this does not interfere with my expectations of you being met.
Tasks
What tasks are you comfortable and confident doing for your Mistress?
Make your skill set and comfort clear. If there are skills you would like to learn that you do not know, ask to be trained. This type of initiative is favored.
Common helpful tasks
Digital help such as advertising my work effectively and leaving online reviews
Information gathering for projects
Manual labor
Rides
Picking up and delivering items
Errands
Financial Expectations
All expectations are best met with consistency. Find a sum at least $800 or more, you can comfortably tribute on a monthly, or broken up into weekly basis.
When sending weekly, be sure to use a method that does not require the Mistress’ effort, as she does not owe you contact on days of rest or vacation times.
Communication
Clear communication for your needs in our dynamic is expected of you. If you are unsure of what your needs are, we can work on discovering them together, however this expectation must be set with the honest admission that the work needs to be done.
Needs and expectations can and frequently do change, and that is ok, but must be recognized and communicated. I may not notice a change right away and always appreciate being told clearly that a situation has changed so it can be renegotiated.
Contact Guide
Contacting me can be broken down in a few different categories:
For booking time to have a scene – Use email, my intake form, or booking line if you have it. Include dates and times you’re available rather than asking for my availability.
For basic questions – Email or booking line if you have it. Be concise.
To play virtually – Always use my fan clubs or chat sites. If I am not online, you may email or text me to see when I will be on next. Never use my booking phone line or email to initiate kinky chat or any type of scene. I prefer to keep things separate for clarity and peace of mind.
If you need support or have an issue – Text or email me and request a time to have a discussion. If emailing, feel free to add some detail about the situation, but keep the composition under 3 minutes read.
General texting rules:
When texting my booking line, keep it simple and concise and be mindful of the hours of contact.
Preferred texting hours for polite greetings and check ins
Texting to complete tasks or replying to me within an hour of texting you is excused from those restrictions.
Other Requirements:
While being brand new is part of the process, you must have at least one refference from an established, publicly practicing privider to qualify. If you do not have this, please book a standard appointment with me first for proper verification.
The Next Steps:
When you have made a firm decision to embark on this life changing journey and gathered your thoughts and expectations into a neat package, fill out the application and send a $209 tribute to have your submission reviewed. Applications without a tribute will be discarded without review after 3 days.
Those noticed for their high potential receive a medalion to mark their dedication. A small token of My faith in you blossoming into your calling as My servant.
Slipping his hand into his pocked to feel the stack of bills inside it one last time before walking through the entrance, the texture of the currency face offers some short-lived relief to a storm of excitement and nerves brewing in the pit of his stomach. A faceless human, nobody of objective importance, and yet – player one has entered the building.
Over loud repetitive music, above every laser beam and disco ball twinkle competing for the attention of the eyeballs in the venue, the voice that beckoned him on this journey echoes “Double Digits only, piglet “. A cold, belittling message from his Ice Queen. Yet the award of her smile melts every desire to resist and banishes any thought of defecting. An honor too great to ever forfeit, being invited to the pedestal of an immaculate Deity, his cold cash countess.
The blur of the surroundings is a mere back drop for the rapturous thrill of becoming a simple pillar of pleasure for a Princess. No other gift will turn her cold gaze, to anyone; No other favor will melt her icy glare. Discretely, his fingers run across the stack again, counting the blessings for his offering while awaiting his turn at the bar. One drink, just enough to calm the nerves. Plus it will give him a chance to place his approach. He may be a human ATM, but grace is second favorite to the warden of his desires and he yearns for her acceptance and validation with every fiber of his being.
Inevitably, the first sight of her sends a bolt of electricity through his nervous system. Seconds pass before his breath returns. There, above all others, she shines like a radiant star. Every decadent motion rolling off her curves with ease, beckoning the crowd to approach. A moment for self composure – three deep breaths, and a shot of liquid courage goes down in one smooth gulp. The sting of the spirit descending onto his judgement slows down time, and the swarm of adoring patrons headed towards the stage to pray at the holy figures above them becomes a surreal motion blur, like a sun drawing the room in with its magnificent gravity.
Soon the thirst for her attention becomes desperation and his body marches compliantly towards the light. Every step hosts a thousand thoughts of her smile, the twinkle in her eyes as she takes, the pleasure of being close enough to smell her while being offered and opportunity to sacrifice financial power to her, publicly, in front of everyone else competing for her favor. Hopefully that stack of 20’s will suffice…
He places his initial offering on the floor, 5 crisp bills – A moment of attention from a goddess could not be expected for less. Intoxicated by her proximity, he stands frozen, oblivious to the music driven chaos about. In this vast room, at this very moment, there are only two beings existing in the world, the Princess, and her Human ATM. He is fixed in place, like a true pleasure machine, the type She lusts for anyway. The seconds between his offering and her acknowledgement are immeasurable. Her eyes fix on the tribute for a moment before wandering away. She scans the room, calculating her approach with a commanding strut that ends with a boot firmly on the bills. Now she towers above him, an amazon. Her pale face stern and demanding as she looks down at the tribute and her submissive courtier. A little turn, suddenly the noise becomes music as her figure twists along the melody and shakes with the rhythm. A blessing from the heavens, the moon has risen and it’s magnetic pull is exerting unreal pressure on the weak spectators about them, including, and especially, player one. As the vixen hinges at the waist, folding perfectly in half to present her dazzling posterior to the audience, a peek of her big brown eyes shines from between her long spectacular legs. Both hands sliding down the boot weighing down a small spread of cash to meet the ground. Her shiny manicured fingers spread to brace the ground – she flashes a smile at her admirer.
Time stands still, a blessing from the universe has been bestowed to a mere mortal. Nervously, he fumbles through his pockets for more cash. This moment could last forever, or at least as long as She is being fed. The money is now in her hand, a small fan of 20s, and his anxiety rises as he realizes his generosity may have come up short. In a small panic, he pulls out the whole stack, like a sensual dance between a loyal knight and his sinister Matriarch. Seeing the truth behind his intent, she zeros in for the kill, slamming her ass down on the podium in a mesmerizing split, just inches from his face. Money in hand, she fans the bills out to waft cold, money scented air at herself. No smile, just that cold, analytical expression on her face that beseeches one to sacrifice more. She slips a little look back out of the corner of her eyes just in time to see player one’s gaze fixed helplessly on her buttocks jiggling to the rhythm of the song. He’s caught; Thinking fast, he offers a wad of cash to her, right in her perfect hands. The sharp, bedazzled claws barely graze his fingers as she takes what is hers.
Obsessed, he is unable to move anything other than his hands, which can only reach down to pull more out of the bank and hand it over again and again while her power over him becomes all consuming and inescapable. Soon, he has her exclusive attention, a devastating predicament for his addiction. A smile, now fixed on her face is fed robustly by his generous lapse into financial servitude, intoxicated to both of them. Playfully, she commands him to place bills in various nooks of her elaborate costume. One in the stocking, one in the boot, some offering a chance to touch her brilliant skin – only as much as necessary. Time seems to flow indefinitely as the sensual game of sacrifice plays on. he looks up to see her offering the next placement of a tribute: the coveted panty bill slip; alas, the bank is empty. Frantically he searches his wallet, pulling out the innards of every pocket in hopes for one lost bill. She has drained him completely dry. As his face turns up to face his goddess with regret a chill runs down his spine. Her face, so close, as she leans forward in her provocative straddle, to speak right into his soul “Next time, bring 50s”.
Before a breath could return to our hero, he’s watched his succubus flow back onto her pretty heels and offer him one last wistful glimpse at the prized ass, as she retreats off her pedestal and vanishes into the darkness.
A word that often conjures images of medieval virtue and religious piety, is much more nuanced than simply abstaining from sexual activity. It is a concept with deep personal significance, applicable to people of all backgrounds and circumstances. Chastity can be understood not just as a practice, but as a value rooted in self-discipline, respect, and mindfulness regarding one’s body and the relationship they wish to foster with the Subject of their devotion.
“No Sex Until Marriage”
At its core, chastity is the practice of exercising control over one’s sexual desires in a way that aligns with personal values. While often associated with religious teachings and marital vows, chastity can also be a personal choice for people who seek to live in harmony with their sexual deviance. Creating the opportunity to be appropriately denied the pleasure one has not earned is hot.
For some, chastity is a lifelong affair, sometimes known as “permanent chastity”—choosing to abstain from sex entirely, sometimes for life. For others, chastity is simply a fun way to relinquish their control to a Dominant of their adoration. But chastity doesn’t generally equate to lifelong abstinence. Instead, it emphasizes the sexual dynamic between “the owned” and “the key holder”.
Who is She?
Historically, chastity has been deeply rooted in religious practices.Christianity holds it as one of the virtues expected to be practiced by those who are unmarried, while marital chastity emphasizes fidelity. The vow of celibacy for Catholic priests and nuns is a commitment to a life of spiritual focus, where chastity plays a significant role. Although their witnessed practice of such virtues is about as abundant in evidence as actual historical artifacts known as chastity devices.
In truth, chastity is a 19th century obsession born from the mires of juvenile humor poking fun at our propensity towards insecurity, jealousy, and infidelity.
Chastity Now
Today the concept around chastity has evolved far beyond steel bikinis for vulnerable maidens. With shifting norms around sexuality, gender, and relationships, chastity can be practiced by all people and genital shapes – being especially favored by men wearers and women key holders. Our fast paced world allows us an almost infinite catalog of goods made by artisans all over the world. Should one desire the power dynamic chastity play offers, there is undoubtedly a product or maker out there with the perfect solution for the task.
The contemporary desire of living with intention is within us all. However, the abundance modern life offers us, comes with a proportional abundance of temptations and distractions which can make it prohibitively difficult to engage with one’s body and sexuality thoughtfully, rather than impulsively or recklessly. For some, it may be a form of training, allowing them to set boundaries and control their sexual experiences on their key holder’s terms.
While the benefits to the owned can be readily clear, one may wonder what the key holder may have to gain from such an arrangement. “A key holder” is a person, usually a dominant or top in the dynamic, who possesses the key which can free the owned, or submissive, from their device, returning their sexual freedom and the power that it grants their partner. They generally serve as a guide and enforcer to the submissive, holding them accountable for their intentions and exercising corrective power through penalties and punishments when appropriate.
Locktober
Locktober is a month-long challenge in October that focuses on the exploration of chastity. Participants, typically men, voluntarily wear chastity devices (like cages) to prevent sexual release for the entire month. The goal of Locktober is to explore self-control, tease and denial, and deepen their devotion to their Mistress or Master.
While rooted in BDSM, Locktober also appeals to those interested in testing their personal discipline and reframing their relationship with sexual gratification. Participants often keep journals of reflection or share their experiences online, creating a sense of community during the challenge. Time locked away from temptation can also offer invaluable opportunity for personal growth.
Locked for Me
The locket is pretty full these days, but I could always make room for a shining applicant to celebrate male reform and celibacy. Have you thought about handing that key over to me? Perhaps you live a bit far and wish to mail it over and watch me open your mail, and thread that new key on with the others. Put your humility and service to the test of my standards this October, and add another charm on my locket for my birthday – the key to your masculinity, gently resting on my chest.
Becoming an object in my collection could be your next biggest achievement.Of course, such a lofty membership comes with the responsibility to serve and obey with integrity and enthusiasm. I expect my subjects to keep a weekly journal of reflection, be available to complete tasks and show proof of commitment in any way I require, and regular gifts and praise to properly express their appreciation for my presence in their lives.
Proof of commitment may be requested via photo or video among other ways. Gifts can be made as monetary tributes or wish list items. Praise is where an owned may really shine. Surprise me with poetry or music dedicated to me or any other interesting works of art. Praise me in tasteful ways through reviews or recommendations as a skilled Mistress. Or simply commission work dedicated to your service under me. As a lady of culture, tasteful creativity is a high compliment to me.
Lock me Up!
When you are ready to begin your journey with me, you may find the following useful:
Who could resist the charm of a uniform? Much less the attractive white ensemble or those dashing blue scrubs. Realistically our medical staff hasn’t been subject to objectifying clothing requirements for decades though, so the feeling is definitely cerebral. Whether you’re a fan of scrubs, a fan of being cared for by an experienced caregiver, just love feeling at the mercy of someone in charge of your shaky health conditions, or some other attractive scenario involving doctors and hospitals, medical play offers a wide and exciting variety of ideas to play with.
For me it’s the role play. I love dressing up in those unrealistic themed costumes and twisting that annual exam into a humiliating scenario, leaving my patient exposed and at my mercy. Do you want that lollipop? You better bend over and cough…
Favorites are not my thing – here are a handful of medical play scenarios that get my mercury rising.
Maintaining a healthy pelvic floor is paramount for a comfortable and satisfying sex life. The Center for Debauchery Control suggests annual pelvic exams for all humans with a vagina to ensure no health conditions have a chance to develop past the point of intervention.
A typical pelvic exam includes all basic health measurements, manual examination of the outer and inner pelvis, collecting biological samples with the help of a speculum and cotton tipped wand, and a standard breast cancer screening. Nurse Devi takes the health of her patients with the highest regard.
Life is stressful and complex. When the spirit feels deflated and unfulfilled, experimenting with sensation play can help revive some of the lost vigor. Needle Play is both exciting and meditative. A hand full of needles adorning the body will awaken the senses, but a beautiful spread of 100 or more aesthetically placed hypodermic needles have the potential to transport the mind to heights and depths only accessible to those willing to endure hundreds of tiny puncture wounds to the torso, arms, legs, and for the true masochists, the face.
Needle play, like all other play involving breaking of the skin, is not recommended for those with excessive bleeding issues or people with sharp intolerances to seeing blood.
That lifelong feeling of inadequacy is not by chance. Things didn’t quite wire up right for you from the start and the reason nothing has helped is because you got sifted into the wrong category at birth. Nurse Devi is here to help. Together we will explore options to get you feeling like your true self. Treatments are individual and include a range of options from lifestyle changes to full physical alterations that will transform your unfitting genitals into the ones you were always meant to have.
Not happy with the look or feel of your genitals? Consider beautifying procedures like urethral stretching, genital piercings, branding and carving, or tattooing. A tiny urethra can feel embarrassing and unfulfilling. With some diligence, Nurse Devi can help reach your most ambitious dreams. Let’s celebrate by sliping a high heel in there at the end of your procedure.
Urethral stretching is not permanent and after achieving your desired level of openness some maintenance will need to be done to preserve your new stretched out look.
We wish that all conditions fit into a simple box with easy to pin down treatment and medication options. Alas not all conditions arise equally and some ailments are notoriously difficult to pin down and treat.
Here at the Kink Asylum we take pride in our investigative medical work. With head nurse Devi on staff you can bet that any problem, no matter how bizarre and complex, will receive the proper attention and effort until a viable solution is found. Some of our methods may seem unorthodox, and even strange, but it is our primary focus to find relief for our patients any way we can.
Thank you for entrusting your health to our facility.
It is no secret that focused training will yield the most gains, whether that is intellectual gains, or physical gains, or kinky gains; Consistency is key! I want to build a strong community with happy confident kinksters, and that starts by offering a more easy to follow regiment with a targeted BDSM training programme. More activities will be added to this roster as the project grows. But I thought I would start with one of our favorites: Ball Busting.
My goal is to make you the ball bustee of your hottest dreams. Whether you are a novice, mostly inexperienced, or a complete wuss is not important. Only your desire to be kicked in the balls and learn to love it matters. Training begins at your comfort level and escalates slowly beyond your limits as you form new ones to surpass again and again. I use a combination of cognitive behavioral training and exposure therapy to get you the most painfully satisfying results possible. Simply fill out the session application and select “A Specialty” for question 19 and the “Sadomasochism” for 19.5 There are no excuses not to stick to your training:
Choose between 4 and 6 training sessions. Train as often as daily or as leisurely as monthly. Training is personalized to your personal fitness level and limitations. No alterations or reschedules.
Philosophy
Taking a kick to the groin for a woman is the epitome of manliness by many accounts. What can ooze more stoic masculinity than accepting her gift with honor and gratitude? A crack to the nuts is a blessing, like a sensual kiss from the angel of death. The stronger the wave of her powerful blow washing through you, the deeper and more satisfying the pleasure I receive from it.
So what is your ultimate gift to a woman? An ultimate sacrifice, though tantalizing to the mind and soul, offers little in longevity to your commitment in My sadistic satisfaction. I want your balls, but I want them attached to you with every nerve ending still tragically alive and suffering for me. If I shall be spoiled with a fine pleasure like breaking your balls, they are to heal quickly so that I may indulge frequently and more viciously each time. The more agony your voice betrays while I toy with you, the more compelling the urge to let my eyes roll back, enraptured by the power your misery supplies me with.
I will break you, but only so much so that I can break you again and again. When your vision betrays you, my foot will be there to remind your balls where the floor is. No cigarette is required for me to grind my heel into the concrete, your scrotum will do. It flattens so nicely under my platform heels after all. If only you deserved to feel my bare foot’s devastation, but I have to be certain there will be no attempts to escape from between my toes first. Some joyful stomps should set you up for success and good behavior.
Every scar you earn from me will add to your worth in my stable. Like shining medals lining a submissive uniform, my marks will award those brave enough to take on a life of sacrifice to woman. How far are you prepared to go with Me?
Ever have to keep a secret about one of the most exciting things that has ever happened in your life? Me either until May of 2021. It was a challenge, and I mostly pretended to myself it never even happened in the first place to curb the overwhelming desire to chat everyone’s ear off about it. I could really not, I had signed a non disclosure. But now it is out and I can finally share my amazing experience with you all!
It is likely you have already seen the show “How to Build a Sex Room” on Netflix, apparently many people have because it hit #7 on the charts last week. My excitement is exceeding my vocabulary capabilities right now and I am so grateful for everyone who believed in me along the way to this great moment.
Couples counseling is one of my most coveted professional undertakings. Not only do I get to experience the excitement and joy of two people at once, but I can help them grow together through their sexual deviations in a healthy and constructive way. The emotional reward of introducing couples to BDSM and helping them find the activities they like most in a safe way is immeasurable. So when I was approached by Netflix to help them film a docu series about couples wanting to explore their sexuality in the BDSM realms I was absolutely ecstatic and also very honored.
Working with Melanie Rose
As an added bonus this project placed me at work with one of the best in Interior Design and more interestingly, adult themed interior design. Melanie Rose was a pleasure to converse with and had a lot of foresight and mindful intuition in her tool bag. I could tell she really enjoyed creating these magical spaces for her client and in a way that was a big common ground for us. The joy of a happy customer who just found intimate fulfillment with their partner is special and she was not afraid to push these curious bunnies to experiment and taste things that are new and a little intimidating to them. After all they get a WHOLE sex room, there ought to be lots to explore there.
Self exploration is daunting, like most things with high rewards. Coercing these lovers out of their comfort zone was almost a prerequisite to giving them an adult wonderland in their own home or back yard. Melanie did a wonderful job pushing her clients to experiment with the unknown and precarious and introducing them to some of the exciting activities and scenes they can play with. Now that they know what is out there for them to enjoy, they can make a choice to taste from any and all the treats they wish, as much as they want, and as often as they like. They say growth begins at the edge of your comfort zone, and I do believe she led them there in the most fun and exciting way.
Working with Hannah and Wesley
I think my whipping scene with 46 may have intimidated Hannah and Wesley a bit! But after we were able to introduce each other they were very sweet and fun to play with. Through the magic of TV we were able to figure out their favorite dungeon props in no time at all. But in reality we spent a while chatting, laughing about silly and awkward questions and fears and ideas, and after testing out several implements and devices, getting excited for the stuff that made her eyes twinkle.
We talked through some of her fears around bondage and how he can work towards making them less relevant in their relationship and more accessible to them. We discussed techniques to enter intimate space gracefully and maintain the atmosphere for the duration of their scenes. A lot of BDSM is psychological, like playing pretend for adults. Not everyone has a natural inclination to be a good BDSM actor and player, but this is a skill that anyone can learn and perfect with enough practice. Who would not want to check that chore off their list?
The room Melani Designed for Hannah and Wesley is a work of fine art. It brought a smile to my face to see all the little elements of our consultation and tasting brought to life in such an opulent way.
How to Build a Sex Room
As a professional control haver, giving up control to a TV production company was very daunting for me. I worried about representing my community and industry and also giving the clients a productive and quality experience. So when the show came out I was up at 1 in the morning watching it and reeling with excitement.
Never has TV been more open and concerned about showcasing the adult industry in such a positive way. This is the series we all needed right now. The “sex rooms” are elegant and awe inspiring. They offer unlimited pleasures in exchange for your intimate imagination. I loved hearing Melanie talk about the importance and nuance of consent and helping guide coples to stroll further into their desires and fantasies through sensuality and communication. No drama and bs, just positive exploration of people’s personal indulgences. A breath of fresh air for anyone hoping to normalize the idea of sexual liberation.
23:05 – Screeching breaks announce the punctual arrival of line 30, the last eastbound bus for the day. A tall figure shrouded in a long flowing brown coat boarded, paid the fare, and slowly made way to the back. Long brown curls cascaded down from a matching brown hat, bouncing with every foot step, drawing all alert eyes on board. Of course at close to midnight there were few left to observe the incognito passenger, but those who frequented the line were slaves to their curiosity, and consequently concern. A woman seated towards the middle of the line near the aisle placed her hand gently on the luxurious sleeve as it approached to pass her.
“It is better to sit near the front. Late at night especially…” she muttered in a concerned tone.
The tall, mysterious woman smiled down from behind her tinted glasses. “Thank you.” and continued her graceful strut, past all the empty seats and all the way to the back, very back of the bus, taking her seat by the driver side window. For the next two stops she sat with her legs crossed, one leather boot over the other peeking from behind her fur lined cloak. Her slender pale hands rested perfectly on her knee, frozen in time, like a silver statue.
23:18 – The jagged symphony announces the arrival of another frequent rider along the ominous evening route. The same character who always boards bus 30 at the intersection of 7th street and 20th avenue, headed for the last stop of the day, pays his dues and proceeds to his usual seat, in the back, very back of the bus. A smile stretches over his shiny, textured face as he peers through his scraggly tresses and catches a glimpse of his usual seat, occupied. Excitement visibly wells up in him, pushing his steps quickly through the aisle, past the old woman scoffing at him in disgust and into the seat right beside an attractive woman in a long brown coat and leather boots. The wheels turn and everyone bobs gently in agreement towards the end of this ride.
Wasting no time, the newcomer slouches into his seat, letting his body droop off the seat awkwardly as he adjusts himself inside his own loose fitting outerwear. A strong alcoholic scent permeates the air around him as he shuffles loudly, peppering his performance with offensive grunts. Through the window’s reflection, a pale brown haired woman’s mauve lips are clearly smiling, watching every movement with great interest. Intoxicated by her perfect jawline and full, ripe looking mouth, he smiles back, his slimy mouth gaping as his lips attempt to create the shape of contentment. For a second he is still and dumbfounded, then the performance continues with the usual fit of vigorous shuffling in a very obvious vertical motion. This goes on for an eternity, or a minute, time does not always flow as one would anticipate, but eventually it comes to its obligatory head.
Slowly, the woman slides her hands up her thigh, into her pocket and out with a pair of thin, leather wrist gloves. He can see her slipping her hands in, expanding each little shaft around her slender fingers one by one. The now sweaty strands of hair on his face barring a full view only serve to lull him deeper into his fantasy as her hands disappear into the coat, slipping between the sparse buttons. She shuffled a bit and flashed a smile back, a real one this time, face to tinted glasses.
Ecstatic, he makes no pretenses, his motions now clearly betraying a very inappropriate act for the back seat of bus 30 at 23:31. A stain starts to form on his sweatpants, growing larger and larger behind the bulge responsible for it. As his eyes slowly adjust to hers staring directly at the dark wet fabric on his groin, he sees a flash of perfect white teeth roll over her bottom lip. An ungainly laugh falls out of his gaping face, and he slips his erect cock out for display. Before his eyes could focus down on his pride, and then back up to his prize, the sobering touch of a blade stuns him alert. In one swift motion she had expertly placed her left hand over his mouth and her right hand, apparently now armed with a hunting knife, just on the other side of his oozing appendage.
“Do as I say and I will let you keep it.” Her voice is calm and sweet, like she is giving directions to a spa room.
A small drop of blood slowly gathers at the tip of the knife as the skin splits easily under its pressure. Tears well up in his bloodshot eyes.
“Do not make a single sound. Do you understand?” She hisses.
A vigorous head shake.
“Good” Her hand slips down his face and across their laps. Ruby red fingertips start peeling buttons open on her coat one by one. The knife is still in place, but the promise of seeing the top of the long, leather boots melts the memory of this predicament almost clear away. Surely, there is nothing this attractive woman in thigh high leather boots can request that would even be objectionable, let alone worth such a loss. She unfurls her garment, revealing more leather wrapping her waspie figure, and sheer, immaculate stockings tucking into her boots. In her lap and strapped to her hips, lay a large, thick dildo. Jet Black, like the boots.
“Get on your knees and suck it.”
Time freezes for a second, then a bump in the road brings back to mind the proximity of the blade to the penis.
“Now.”
He scrambles down, cramming between the seats and her lap and begins to struggle. Exaggerated by her forceful touch, his efforts are messy and unfulfilling and he begins to choke.
“Shhhhh,” she leans down and pushes his head down and onto her tool, further into his mouth as he attempts to articulate his lips and tongue around its size.
“I am going to need you to do this quietly and quickly because I do not have lube and it needs to go in your ass, now.” His eyes widen as he chokes, spitting up a big wad of slime.
“That will do, bend over. Hurry up.”
She gropes him into place, still wielding the hunting knife with intention. Crammed in a corner, his head by the footing, he is trapped, too inebriated to risk fighting back. Now, wasting no time, she has begun to slide the sizable dildo into him. Using nothing but spit, she pushes it firmly, gaping him open, in the back seat of bus 30, in his usual seat, but in a very unusual position. The next few minutes last forever as road turbulence intensifies the vengeful back seat ass rape, like the creschendo of a feverish symphony. Humiliation dulls the pain of the loveless and lubeless intercourse. He takes every stroke, stoic in his drunken contemplation, hoping that this too will pass. Then she stops.
“Time for me to finish.” She sighs with relief and suddenly a rush of warm fluid pumps into him. Disgrace has never burned as deeply. Another deep sigh of satisfaction marks the end of the robust flow and she slips out and plugs the gape with a rubber stopper. Without saying another word, she wipes clean onto his jacket, buttons her coat, and struts slowly forward just in time for the next stop. There is no pause between her last step and the doors of the bus opening for boarding, and just like that the night swallows her away.
Social nuances can be perplexing. We all want to be seen, heard, understood, and hopefully liked. But how those prizes are earned can vary greatly between different groups and individuals. Every person is unique, and has their own personal preferences, making socializing in unfamiliar spaces a nebulous undertaking. BDSM, especially when mindfully practiced, can lift a lot of this fog. Do you yearn to be good and earn all the head pats?
It takes more than good luck to earn head pats at my feet.
Good behaviors start with good intentions, but so do a lot of terrible mistakes so don’t stop now, we are just getting to the good part, the part where your hopes and dreams begin their journey to realization. I only speak for myself with this collection of thoughts, but it is worth noting that some of my peers have shared my sentiments on what constitutes a good boy, girl, pet, slave, client, and human. All of the following topics begin with a few minutes, or more if you should be feeling extra cautious, of thoughtful contemplation. Is your request clear and concise? Is it a reasonable ask of the addressee? Have you offered anything of equal or greater value in exchange for their attention and help?
Here are what I consider good behaviors.
Online
In my robust internet dweller experience, some 24 years and two thirds of my life online, this is one of the trickiest undertakings. Here you are in front of the world wide web, vying for the attention of some person or people, me maybe. How do you stand out in a good way?
First make an effort to appear genuine. There is no need to put out any personal or sensitive information, you can be anonymous from your civilian persona, but also known online for being a good intentioned person. Always fill out your social media profiles as honestly as you can, giving people a glimpse of your personality, so they can decide if they would like to get to know you better.
Make an effort to always contribute positive or helpful things to conversations. Sadly that arsenal of dad jokes is not going to work in many cases. If it is not helpful or uplifting, pass on making the comment.
Be patient. People are skeptical, and busy. It takes time to build a good reputation, and no time at all to trash one you have worked hard on. Find understanding that your light will eventually be seen by all who should be looking for its warmth in time.
Things to avoid:
Airing out personal drama.
Trying to have free kinky chat with people in post comments.
Making emotional commentary on topics outside of your expertise.
Attacking people over petty personal beliefs and preferences.
Bringing politics into anything without a very good reason.
Cherry picking statements to get attention for something irrelevant.
Written Communication
Let us make this a little more personal. You are writing an email to me for the first time ever and you really want to make a good impression so that I can be excited to reply back as soon as possible. Here are some writing behaviors I find very attractive:
Speak in complete sentences and with proper grammar. Please do not abbreviate anything in your correspondences and double check emails for typos and auto-correct issues prior to hitting send. I have no way of knowing what you meant, only what I see written by you. Seeing a well written email with all pertinent information included gives me confidence that our interactions will be easy and pleasant, and starts our relationship on a healthy note.
Send one email at a time. If I am traveling or preoccupied with existing projects it may take me up to two days to respond. Send a gentle reminder if it has been a few days and you feel your correspondence may have slipped through the cracks.
During Booking
What about when you are booking a session? Are there ways you can shine as an applicant? If you are writing an email to request a booking the following tips could provide you the leverage you are seeking:
Only use email or the scheduler to book. I have locked most of my social media DMs to save those feeble to temptation, but do have some social media accounts where this is not convenient or possible. Do not take this as an invitation to stray from the rules. Make a good impression and inquire for sessions only via email or my online scheduling forms.
Tell me a little bit about yourself. But do not get too carried away writing a whole life story. The things I would like to know about include your interests, brief recounts from previous sessions and kinky scenes, Mistresses you have served in the past, and any limitations you are operating under. Try to keep your composition within a few paragraphs. Getting to know each-other in depth little by little, and through experience versus autobiography is deeply satisfying.
Leave graphic topics out of your first point of contact. Keeping your first point of contact concise is key. Getting into the nitty-gritty details of past adventures can be read as an attempt to initiate un-consented-to play through text and is generally regarded as rude. If a preemptive discussion is desired or needed, contact me via sextpanther or Loyal Fans to discuss in detail. Note that the exchange of money for penetrative activities, such as strap-on, is illegal in all states where sex for money is illegal. Talking about your fantasy on the phone however, is not. So feel free to call or text and discuss your kink with me in a safe space.
Once an invitation to book has been extended you will also be presented with deposit methods to secure your booking via email. I will never send you booking instructions via social media or a pay site where such arrangements would be against the terms of service. It shows preparedness and respect to clear the deposit step as soon as instructions have been received.
During Scenes
Maybe in person interactions are your kryptonite. Having a clear plan for the meeting helps ease nerves and keep a steady path through.
Upon arrival. If you have arrived to an appointment much earlier than anticipated, politely wait until your appointment time, or text to check if it is possible to start sooner.
Once inside my private space an upstanding approach is to politely kiss the Mistresses hand in greeting. Kneeling while doing so gets you extra bonus points, as does kissing the feet. I love to have my feet kissed.
For the next few minutes you may ask questions and become a bit more familiar with the environment. Utilize this time well because once it is over, you are mine to do with as I please. When the time has come, place your envelope in plain sight, kneel, minding your eye contact restriction, and wait for my next command.
In Real Life
We kinky people are also normal people sometimes. We go to restaurants, shop at stores, and can even be found at events and venues having a good time living our best vanilla lives. It should go without saying, fantasy cannot intrude on reality and I would never approach someone I only know from the kink scene during their vanilla life and risk blowing some cover or secret. Likewise it is never ok to approach me or any other providers or public figures in vanilla spaces without an explicit invitation to do so. The correct approach is to politely make contact via an established method, like email or text, and allow me to make the decision whether I want to interact with you at that moment in time. Erring on the side of caution and sending an email or text saying “I saw you at that concert, you looked beautiful, I hope you had fun!” is a perfect way to address that newly discovered common interest without the risk of arousing suspicion. Extra bonus points if there is a gift attached to that note.
A perceptive little pervert may have noticed a theme here, be mindful and consider the positions others have in life when you are making a conscious decision to address them. Be kind, patient, and respectful. None of these suggestions require prohibitive skill levels or financial contributions. They simply guide you to showing the most attractive version of who you can be, so that you can enjoy the company of many other great weirdos and heathens, maybe even mine.
Are you working hard to make yourself desirable for me?
