Bulgarian Dominatrix – Fetish Princess, Miss Isobel Devi

July 21, 2022September 8, 2022

How to Build a Sex Room

Ever have to keep a secret about one of the most exciting things that has ever happened in your life? Me either until May of 2021. It was a challenge, and I mostly pretended to myself it never even happened in the first place to curb the overwhelming desire to chat everyone’s ear off about it. I could really not, I had signed a non disclosure. But now it is out and I can finally share my amazing experience with you all!

It is likely you have already seen the show “How to Build a Sex Room” on Netflix, apparently many people have because it hit #7 on the charts last week. My excitement is exceeding my vocabulary capabilities right now and I am so grateful for everyone who believed in me along the way to this great moment.

Couples counseling is one of my most coveted professional undertakings. Not only do I get to experience the excitement and joy of two people at once, but I can help them grow together through their sexual deviations in a healthy and constructive way. The emotional reward of introducing couples to BDSM and helping them find the activities they like most in a safe way is immeasurable. So when I was approached by Netflix to help them film a docu series about couples wanting to explore their sexuality in the BDSM realms I was absolutely ecstatic and also very honored.

Working with Melanie Rose

As an added bonus this project placed me at work with one of the best in Interior Design and more interestingly, adult themed interior design. Melanie Rose was a pleasure to converse with and had a lot of foresight and mindful intuition in her tool bag. I could tell she really enjoyed creating these magical spaces for her client and in a way that was a big common ground for us. The joy of a happy customer who just found intimate fulfillment with their partner is special and she was not afraid to push these curious bunnies to experiment and taste things that are new and a little intimidating to them. After all they get a WHOLE sex room, there ought to be lots to explore there.

Self exploration is daunting, like most things with high rewards. Coercing these lovers out of their comfort zone was almost a prerequisite to giving them an adult wonderland in their own home or back yard. Melanie did a wonderful job pushing her clients to experiment with the unknown and precarious and introducing them to some of the exciting activities and scenes they can play with. Now that they know what is out there for them to enjoy, they can make a choice to taste from any and all the treats they wish, as much as they want, and as often as they like. They say growth begins at the edge of your comfort zone, and I do believe she led them there in the most fun and exciting way.

Working with Hannah and Wesley

I think my whipping scene with 46 may have intimidated Hannah and Wesley a bit! But after we were able to introduce each other they were very sweet and fun to play with. Through the magic of TV we were able to figure out their favorite dungeon props in no time at all. But in reality we spent a while chatting, laughing about silly and awkward questions and fears and ideas, and after testing out several implements and devices, getting excited for the stuff that made her eyes twinkle.

We talked through some of her fears around bondage and how he can work towards making them less relevant in their relationship and more accessible to them. We discussed techniques to enter intimate space gracefully and maintain the atmosphere for the duration of their scenes. A lot of BDSM is psychological, like playing pretend for adults. Not everyone has a natural inclination to be a good BDSM actor and player, but this is a skill that anyone can learn and perfect with enough practice. Who would not want to check that chore off their list?

The room Melani Designed for Hannah and Wesley is a work of fine art. It brought a smile to my face to see all the little elements of our consultation and tasting brought to life in such an opulent way.

How to Build a Sex Room

As a professional control haver, giving up control to a TV production company was very daunting for me. I worried about representing my community and industry and also giving the clients a productive and quality experience. So when the show came out I was up at 1 in the morning watching it and reeling with excitement.

Never has TV been more open and concerned about showcasing the adult industry in such a positive way. This is the series we all needed right now. The “sex rooms” are elegant and awe inspiring. They offer unlimited pleasures in exchange for your intimate imagination. I loved hearing Melanie talk about the importance and nuance of consent and helping guide coples to stroll further into their desires and fantasies through sensuality and communication. No drama and bs, just positive exploration of people’s personal indulgences. A breath of fresh air for anyone hoping to normalize the idea of sexual liberation.

December 15, 2021July 6, 2022

The Family Dominatrix

Completing the modern family’s most decadent needs.

We are all complex, multifaceted beings. We have likes, dislikes, curiosities, fears, aspirations and the ambitious need to nurture and grow in all those areas. Intimacy, weather sexual or platonic is high on most lists. The thought of hiring a dominatrix to spice up a relationship or find intimate growth may have crossed your mind already, or perhaps it was timidly bought up by your partner and you simply felt too intimidated by the process to pursue the idea further. BDSM is not for everyone, and it can be scary to venture into the depths of your most guarded desires, but if it is an interest of yours, my personal philosophy is to try everything once or twice before writing it off. I write this piece in hopes it will guide you and your partner(s) on your journey to finding the perfect provider for your needs and booked with no issues at all; just like booking your next hair appointment.

Finding the Perfect Provider

Part One : Prep

This is a big task and can seem dizzying to a novice. Let us break it down into fun bits that are easy and exciting to manage. The first thing you will want to nail down is what you are looking for. Ask yourself the following questions:

What do we like for sure?
What are we curious about and unsure we will enjoy?
What are we certainly not interested in trying at this point?
What scares us the most about this prospect?
What excites us the most about it?

It helps to write these down and don’t get too hung up on details at first, you can always change your mind later. Make a fun date out of it! Sit down with the person or people you want to explore your kinks with and spit ball some ideas. If nerves or inexperience are thwarting this process, do explore some online resources to see what is out there and available for you. My best recommendation is to look for providers in your area and check out their social media, blog, and whatever else they have created for their audience. Remember, just because something is shown on a business website or profile, does not mean it has to be part of YOUR scene. It just means it could be, if that was your interest.

Part Two: Search

Once you have a better idea of what your ideal scene looks like you are ready to look for your perfect facilitator. So clearly time to hit the Google. But don’t stop there, check out the top social media sites too. You do not want to have your options garnished by the failure of a vanilla algorithm. Not every excellent domme is an excellent web developer, and most of us chose to build and host our own sites for privacy and flexibility reasons. Try a variety of search queries, as they could bring up different results, by pairing key words like “Dominatrix”, “Mistress/Master”, “BDSM session”, “Fetish Provider”, “Kink” etc with
your geographic location.

Here again, a little bit of foresight is beneficial:

Do our interests require an experienced and knowledgeable professional?

This might seem like a silly question. Of course you want the most professional pro to help with your journey! But not all kinks are equally specialized. For example most providers who have undergone basic training can safely conduct a scene with easier activities such as foot fetish, erotic humiliation, or tease and denial. They do not need 10 years of dungeon experience to spit in your face. But if you are craving an intricate rope bondage scene with suspension, or the sting of a single tail on your back, it is probably best to carefully select a person who is not only experienced in BDSM but also adept at those particular activities. Look for examples of their work on their social profiles, perhaps in their fetlife account, and maybe spend $10-$50 on premium content of theirs where you are able to confirm that this is something they can help you explore, safely.

Are our interests covered by the provider we have found?

Most providers work with all genders but every professional is unique in at least some ways, so be sure to check their limits and services. Most established providers will have a set list of “do not do”s somewhere on their website. Do not try to push those, if they don’t do it, they will not do it for new clients, no matter how sexy you are. Simply find a person who does offer your interest.

Tip: It may help you to know that most North American BDSM providers do not mix vanilla sex, like hand jobs or any type of classic sexual intercourse scenario, in their scenes. For those types of scenes you may find more luck with an escort who also practices BDSM.

Will we be safe with them?

This may just be the most important question you can ask yourself. From privacy to physical well being, you want the scene to be enjoyable from the start until the finish and after it is said and done. Remember that the adult industry is unregulated, and even with regulated businesses bad pro’s are unfortunately part of life.

Signs that your choice is safe are:

They have been practicing for five or more years and have little or no drama surrounding them.
They have a robust social media presence, on multiple platforms. *longevity of social media accounts plays a small role here as we get disabled disproportionately compared to vanilla businesses.
They have a strong network of other professionals they work with both locally and abroad.

How much will it cost? And how do we pay?

This is a good time to ensure you are able to budget this service. As of 2021 the North American industry standard rate for full BDSM services starts at $400 for a single client’s first hour. Couples and more specialized scenes could be priced higher and multi hour scenes could be discounted at the provider’s discretion. Payment methods for the adult industry are usually limited by the larger processors. Do not be surprised if their website lists less popular methods of payment like PantheonPay, SpankPay, or even gift cards for the deposit and then requests cash only for the balance upon meeting. This information is generally available on their website to make it easier for you to plan and budget your leisure so make sure you take all the time you need to familiarize yourself with the journey ahead. I promise it can only add to your excitement and anticipation and remove any potential surprises that would take away from the overall experience.

Contacting your Mistress of Choice

Okay but we are still nervous.

Nervous is good, take as many steps as you need. Here are some examples of steps you can take to build your confidence:

Book a consultation – Most providers will offer a phone or cam consultation for the cost of your deposit which then reserves your scene. So it is free to consult with them when you book after. This gives you a chance to ask questions, hear their words and intent, and get to know them a little more personally before it is time to exchange power.

Register for a pay to chat service they may offer like sextpanther or nite flirt and ask them as many questions as you want, a la carte, for as long as you need, until you feel ready to book.

See if they offer a casual meet and greet scene where you pay for their time to just sit and talk about anything you need to get off your chest with no obligation or pressure to book.

Okay, we are ready, now what?

So you did your homework, discovered some new things about yourselves, found the person who seems most qualified and compatible to take you on a wild ride, and are beyond excited to do the damn thing already. Great, it is all downhill from here!

Now that you have dotted all your “i”s and crossed all your “t”s it is time to contact them for your session. There are two ways to do this which are vastly preferred by practitioners in the industry: filling out an application, if one is available on their website or composing an email. Just remember to include important information such as your availability, location, and interests. You may find the tips for composing an email in my booking entry helpful.

What to expect

Provided your request was successfully received and did not raise any red flags, such as you blatantly asking for locally illegal or unavailable services, you can expect an email correspondence back within 3 business days or less. This does mean you want to plan your experience ahead and give at least a business week’s notice, especially if your availability falls during high demand times such as evenings or weekends.

This is by no means an all inclusive guide, but it should help steer you in the right direction. Questions are always welcome. You never know when something you asked could become the next piece to helps hundreds of readers just like yourself.

Your lovely partner and I congregating about the faith of your immediate future.
Models Charlotte Brooke and Isobel Devi.

September 23, 2019July 6, 2022

How to Book a BDSM Session

Mistress Isobel Devi on a cozy seat in her library

Booking a session with a dominatrix or fetish service provider can feel daunting. Here is a concise guide on how to easily book your appointment with me. Note that this may not be the process other providers like, this is simply my protocol for efficiently setting up your appointment with me.

This procedure has been updated to reflect my most recent booking options as of March 22 2021.

Before Booking

Spend as much time as you are able to reading about my kinks, art, and domination style on my website www.Isobel-Devi.com . You can find ways to chat with me, watch my videos, or view my subscription only content which provides an intimate look into my scenes and shows. Be sure to read the FAQ on the landing page and note my limits when you are considering the type of scene you would like to experience.

The DATES tab will provide you with insight on my travels if you are booking for a tour.

To view my live availability check my books. You can now also request a booking directly via that calendar.

Booking

Booking is now as easy as requesting your appointment directly from the scheduler! Simply choose the appointment type and length you would like to book and take a look at the options available, then place your request. Note that this system will not allow you to book a time slot sooner than 24hours for dungeon scenes or 72 hours for weekend social meetings.

The old system, where you fill out an application and wait for an email reply, is still active. I have put careful thought into this form, walking you through all the details you may be too nervous to remember when writing an email. Take some pressure off yourself and just fill out the form!

Emailing me directly is also an option. Maybe you hold pride in your composition skills; By all means, I love to be wooed with words. Here are some detrimental details you do not want to forget:

Your location – I travel often and may have ads in multiple cities, omitting this is sure to get a reply asking you to either fill out the application or provide your desired booking location.

Your availability – It may seem polite to simply ask for mine in an effort to be most accommodating, but the truth is my schedule is very dynamic and sometimes chaotic and it is simply easier to ask if I am available during any of your most convenient times.

Your interests and limits – although you will have a chance to discuss those immediately prior to the scene, it helps to have them in writing in your initial correspondence.

Your desired scene length or budget – It is up to you which of these factors is more important. But for planning purposes I need at least one of the two.

I usually check general inquiry emails Mondays and Wednesdays and bookings are reserved on a deposit first basis. This means your requested time may be booked out by another person in the time you make the request and place your deposit. It is best to send the deposit within 3 days of me confirming my availability for your request and providing you the deposit amount and methods to avoid this.

For new clients, deposit options outside of the scheduler are Spank Pay and Pantheon Pay. Other options may be available to repeat clients. Please wait until our second or third meeting to ask.

Last Minute Bookings

Last minute bookings are still possible through manual booking. To book with less than 24 hours for dungeon scenes, or less than 72 hours for weekend social meets, send an email titled “Time Sensitive – your name as it appears in the payment” and include a $40 payment via Pantheon Pay , or if you have been given previous permission to, CashApp or PayPal.
Alternatively you may try to reach me via paid chat where I tend to reply within the day, usually within the hour or less, Monday – Saturday.

Once Booked

If you used the online scheduler, you will immediately receive an email confirming your booking date, time and details.

If you booked manually, please wait up to 24 hours for further instructions. I will reply as soon as I’m able to with a confirmation and check-in instructions.

If there is time between the booking and appointment and you wish to discuss the scene in more detail, contact me via paid chat or send $100 to Pantheon Pay and contact me via email or text my booking line to schedule your chat session.

Please do not blow up my booking line or email if I’m slow to reply during any part of this process. It can take me up to 48 business hours to reply to communications that are not time sensitive, such as a booking scheduled a few days or weeks in advance. I will always reply to time sensitive matters as soon as I am able to do so, without affecting any existing bookings.

Abuse of my contact methods will result in a cancellation without a deposit refund and a possible booking ban.

Check in for your appointment via text or email 24 -12 hours before. You will not receive the address until this step. Please do not ask for the address early, you may request an approximate location for commute planning purposes in advance.

Post Scene

If you wish to check in after the scene, I welcome polite emails to reflect on our time together or ask any questions. Texting is ok as long as it is done Monday – Saturday 10am – 8pm.