The Family Dominatrix

Completing the modern family’s most decadent needs.

We are all complex, multifaceted beings. We have likes, dislikes, curiosities, fears, aspirations and the ambitious need to nurture and grow in all those areas. Intimacy, weather sexual or platonic is high on most lists. The thought of hiring a dominatrix to spice up a relationship or find intimate growth may have crossed your mind already, or perhaps it was timidly bought up by your partner and you simply felt too intimidated by the process to pursue the idea further. BDSM is not for everyone, and it can be scary to venture into the depths of your most guarded desires, but if it is an interest of yours, my personal philosophy is to try everything once or twice before writing it off. I write this piece in hopes it will guide you and your partner(s) on your journey to finding the perfect provider for your needs and booked with no issues at all; just like booking your next hair appointment. 

Finding the Perfect Provider

 Part One : Prep

This is a big task and can seem dizzying to a novice. Let us break it down into fun bits that are easy and exciting to manage. The first thing you will want to nail down is what you are looking for. Ask yourself the following questions:

What do we like for sure?
What are we curious about and unsure we will enjoy?
What are we certainly not interested in trying at this point?
What scares us the most about this prospect?
What excites us the most about it?

It helps to write these down and don’t get too hung up on details at first, you can always change your mind later. Make a fun date out of it! Sit down with the person or people you want to explore your kinks with and spit ball some ideas. If nerves or inexperience are thwarting this process, do explore some online resources to see what is out there and available for you. My best recommendation is to look for providers in your area and check out their social media, blog, and whatever else they have created for their audience. Remember, just because something is shown on a business website or profile, does not mean it has to be part of YOUR scene. It just means it could be, if that was your interest.

 Part Two: Search

Once you have a better idea of what your ideal scene looks like you are ready to look for your perfect facilitator. So clearly time to hit the Google. But don’t stop there, check out the top social media sites too. You do not want to have your options garnished by the failure of a vanilla algorithm. Not every excellent domme is an excellent web developer, and most of us chose to build and host our own sites for privacy and flexibility reasons. Try a variety of search queries, as they could bring up different results, by pairing key words like “Dominatrix”, “Mistress/Master”, “BDSM session”, “Fetish Provider”, “Kink” etc with
your geographic location. 

 Here again, a little bit of foresight is beneficial:

Do our interests require an experienced and knowledgeable professional?

    This might seem like a silly question. Of course you want the most professional pro to help with your journey! But not all kinks are equally specialized. For example most providers who have undergone basic training can safely conduct a scene with easier activities such as foot fetish, erotic humiliation, or tease and denial. They do not need 10 years of dungeon experience to spit in your face. But if you are craving an intricate rope bondage scene with suspension, or the sting of a single tail on your back, it is probably best to carefully select a person who is not only experienced in BDSM but also adept at those particular activities. Look for examples of their work on their social profiles, perhaps in their fetlife account, and maybe spend $10-$50 on premium content of theirs where you are able to confirm that this is something they can help you explore, safely.

Are our interests covered by the provider we have found?

     Most providers work with all genders but every professional is unique in at least some ways, so be sure to check their limits and services. Most established providers will have a set list of “do not do”s somewhere on their website. Do not try to push those, if they don’t do it, they will not do it for new clients, no matter how sexy you are. Simply find a person who does offer your interest. 

     Tip: It may help you to know that most North American BDSM providers do not mix vanilla sex, like hand jobs or any type of classic sexual intercourse scenario, in their scenes. For those types of scenes you may find more luck with an escort who also practices BDSM. 

Will we be safe with them?

    This may just be the most important question you can ask yourself. From privacy to physical well being, you want the scene to be enjoyable from the start until the finish and after it is said and done. Remember that the adult industry is unregulated, and even with regulated businesses bad pro’s are unfortunately part of life. 

Signs that your choice is safe are: 

  • They have been practicing for five or more years and have little or no drama surrounding them.
  • They have a robust social media presence, on multiple platforms. *longevity of social media accounts plays a small role here as we get disabled disproportionately compared to vanilla businesses.
  • They have a strong network of other professionals they work with both locally and abroad.

How much will it cost? And how do we pay?

This is a good time to ensure you are able to budget this service. As of 2021 the North American industry standard rate for full BDSM services starts at $400 for a single client’s first hour. Couples and more specialized scenes could be priced higher and multi hour scenes could be discounted at the provider’s discretion. Payment methods for the adult industry are usually limited by the larger processors. Do not be surprised if their website lists less popular methods of payment like PantheonPay, SpankPay, or even gift cards for the deposit and then requests cash only for the balance upon meeting. This information is generally available on their website to make it easier for you to plan and budget your leisure so make sure you take all the time you need to familiarize yourself with the journey ahead. I promise it can only add to your excitement and anticipation and remove any potential surprises that would take away from the overall experience.


Contacting your Mistress of Choice

Okay but we are still nervous.

Nervous is good, take as many steps as you need. Here are some examples of steps you can take to build your confidence:

Book a consultation – Most providers will offer a phone or cam consultation for the cost of your deposit which then reserves your scene. So it is free to consult with them when you book after. This gives you a chance to ask questions, hear their words and intent, and get to know them a little more personally before it is time to exchange power. 

Register for a pay to chat service they may offer like sextpanther or nite flirt and ask them as many questions as you want, a la carte, for as long as you need, until you feel ready to book.

See if they offer a casual meet and greet scene where you pay for their time to just sit and talk about anything you need to get off your chest with no obligation or pressure to book.

Okay, we are ready, now what?

So you did your homework, discovered some new things about yourselves, found the person who seems most qualified and compatible to take you on a wild ride, and are beyond excited to do the damn thing already. Great, it is all downhill from here! 

Now that you have dotted all your “i”s and crossed all your “t”s it is time to contact them for your session. There are two ways to do this which are vastly preferred by practitioners in the industry:

Filling out an application: If they have an application on their website, it is guaranteed their preferred method of contact for a booking. We tend to put careful thought into those, walking you through all the details you may be too nervous to remember when writing an email. Take some pressure off yourself and just fill out the form! 

Composing an email: So maybe you are not that nervous and you hold pride in your composition skills. By all means, we love to be wooed with words. Here are some detrimental details you do not want to forget:

Your location – Many of us travel and may have ads in multiple cities, omitting this is sure to get a reply asking you to either fill out the application or provide your desired booking location.

Your availability – It may seem polite to simply ask for ours in an effort to be most accommodating, but the truth is our schedules are very dynamic and sometimes chaotic and it is simply easier to ask if we are available during any of your most convenient times.

Your interests and limits – although you will have a chance to discuss those immediately prior to the scene, it helps to have them in writing in your initial correspondence.

Your desired scene length or budget – It is up to you which of these factors is more important. But for planning purposes we need at least one of the two. 

What to expect

Provided your request was successfully received and did not raise any red flags, such as you blatantly asking for locally illegal or unavailable services, you can expect an email correspondence back within 3 business days or less. This does mean you want to plan your experience ahead and give at least a business week’s notice, especially if your availability falls during high demand times such as evenings or weekends.

This is by no means an all inclusive guide, but it should help steer you in the right direction. Questions are always welcome. You never know when something you asked could become the next piece to helps hundreds of readers just like yourself. 

Your lovely partner and I congregating about the faith of your immediate future.
Models Charlotte Brooke and Isobel Devi.

April 2021 Updates

Denver Dominatrix IsoDenver Dominatrix Isobel Devi in a red latex outfit.

New Toys:

My twin 4 ft single tails from Victor Tella are finally here! I am still conditioning them and learning how to use them, and I already love them. Every time I crack them I think of the many backs, asses, and cocks that will bleed for them in the years to come and I get a slight nipple erection, a nip-chub. The concept of whip virginity had not crossed my mind until now, and I am strangely excited by the curiosity of who will be the first I choose to strike with them.

New rubber bondage items have arrived in the mail. They will fit petite to average sized bodies. References to gear manufacturers who make more male sized items are appreciated from people with dm privileges. If you do not have dm privileges, contact me via fetlife with this type of chat.

Blackout Dates:

I am not available for in person or cam sessions April 9 – 11.
I will be taking some time off to spoil myself. If you want to help spoil me you can send something, big or small, via Pantheon Pay or Spank Pay , or text me on SextPanther to play via text, phone, exchange of pics and clips, or just ask how I am doing.

Travel:

I will be traveling to Dallas Texas April 22 – 24 and Austin Texas April 24- 26. As of April 6th 2021 the following time slots are still open for private scenes and video or photo bookings and collaborations.

Dallas

April 22 Fully Booked

April 23 4 – 10 pm remaining with an existing inquiry.

April 24 Fully Booked

I am staying in Downtown Dallas and plan to meet with Mistress Petra Hunter while in town. Booking a double with us is highly recommended.

Mistress Petra Hunter of Dallas Texas
Mistress Petra Hunter of Dallas Texas.


Austin

April 24 6 – 9 pm

April 25 1 – 11 pm

April 26 9 – 11am

While in Austin I will be hanging out with my good friend Carla X. She is not a pro domme but would be happy to join our session as an observer or to allow her to explore her recreational interest in BDSM with us.

Carla X of Austin Texas
Austin Performance artist Carla X.


Denver Availability:

As of April 6th 2021 this is my remaining availability for Denver Metro area appointments:

April 8th – 6 pm to 9 pm Only

April 12th – 10 am to Noon and 5pm to 11pm

April 13th – 11 am to 3 pm and 7pm to 11pm

April 14th – Noon to 2 pm and 4pm to 11 pm

April 15th – 6 pm to 11pm

April 16th – 4pm to 11pm

April 17th – Mostly Open

April 19th and 20 – Mostly Open

April 27th – After Noon Only

April 29 to 30 – Mostly Open

Sundays the 18th and 25th are possible to book with a minimum 4 days notice and $400 per hour tribute.

Video:

This month you can request Miss Petra Hunter or Miss Carla X to be in your custom video order. You can have videos with both of them, but not at the same time as they do not live in the same city.

New fetish videos are loading into my Clips 4 Sale every Tuesday and Friday, and in my IWC every Wednesday and Saturday. Be good and buy them as soon as they come out to help me onto the chart tops.

My YouTube channel is always free and features some fun pg clips and my new latex care and info series. New episodes every second Wednesday of the month. The next one will be out Wednesday April 14.

Premium Online Subscription:

The only affiliate site I currently work with to provide you with a (mostly) complete gallery of my art, behind the scenes content, and premium content, is OnlyFans.com/MissIsobelDevi . Currently my catalog contains:

327 Videos
3782 Photos
721 Posts

I update as I am able to, and can drop multiple posts a day or be quiet for a few days at a time. One premium clip is up for unlimited viewing from Friday at 6 pm to Monday at 6 pm every week. These are the upcoming clip showings for April:

9th – 12th “Stretched and Busted
16th – 19th “Mouth-Raping the Bondage Doll
23rd – 26th “Heavy Handed Spanking
30th – 2nd “Kicking The Cum Out of His Worthless Balls

Live Shows:

Many of you have asked me when live shows will return. It was a goal of mine to bring them back with more stability this year and I plan to resume them starting this Monday April 12th at 1pm – 4pm on only fans live. My plan is to start back up with one weekly stream and then add a second one that is free to view(not on only fans) in the near future. Your support and feedback on this project are appreciated. Look out for polls for stream themes on twitter and Instagram.

Xo

Miss Devi

Red look good one me, weather it is rubber or leather.
Denver Mistress Isobel Devi contemplating your faith.

Holiday Specials

Denver Mistress Isobel Devi in a black latex catsuit

I will be spending the holidays home in Denver, with no travel plans until January. It was my very intention to host a kinky holiday party this year but alas this is not in the cards. So I will give back to my loyal community in a way of holiday specials. Starting now and until January 5th 2021 the following session specials will be available to all accepted applicants:

3 Hour Bondage Bliss $600 (save $200) – Dive deeper into rope bondage with me. Explore advanced poses and work on your flight stamina. Good for beginners in good physical condition and people who want to take their bondage submission to a new level.

Sensory Deprivation and Abandonment $500 for 2 hours and $200 for each additional hour – You need to relax more. Let me take away the burden of choice and put you where you belong, in a neat package, tucked away until you are needed again. Spend some time immobilized in plastic, rope, leather, or rubber, and let the world around you vanish with the sounds and sights as I take control of your mind, body and soul.

30 minute sessions $250 – Yes! 30 minute sessions are back for a limited time. They are still bound by all standard booking protocols and only allow for a single scene such as ball busting, trampling, spanking, or foot worship only.

Worn Leather Boots

Dear slaves, creepers, and chronic-humpers, 

     Have you dreamed of being at My feet? Have you creeped My twitter and instagram, enviously bemoaning the distance which places you outside of groveling reach? Do you spend hours dreaming of being smothered by My leather boots? I bet you do, and I bet it’s a pathetic ordeal to watch…

     In the spirit of this Holiday I feel no connection with, I give you the exciting opportunity to almost worship My talented and superior feet, even if you live somewhere really far, and really boring.

     Behold, a pair of leather boots I have worn many times, to many filthy deprived places. Yum:

See them taken off My feet. – Boots have been worn many times and may bear the distinct scent of my perspiration. As is.

Buy My dirty old boots. Send $50 for US addresses and $75 outside of US addresses and email mailing instructions to IsobelDevi@Gmail.com – First come first served. Discrete packaging available.