The Family Dominatrix

Completing the modern family’s most decadent needs.

We are all complex, multifaceted beings. We have likes, dislikes, curiosities, fears, aspirations and the ambitious need to nurture and grow in all those areas. Intimacy, weather sexual or platonic is high on most lists. The thought of hiring a dominatrix to spice up a relationship or find intimate growth may have crossed your mind already, or perhaps it was timidly bought up by your partner and you simply felt too intimidated by the process to pursue the idea further. BDSM is not for everyone, and it can be scary to venture into the depths of your most guarded desires, but if it is an interest of yours, my personal philosophy is to try everything once or twice before writing it off. I write this piece in hopes it will guide you and your partner(s) on your journey to finding the perfect provider for your needs and booked with no issues at all; just like booking your next hair appointment. 

Finding the Perfect Provider

 Part One : Prep

This is a big task and can seem dizzying to a novice. Let us break it down into fun bits that are easy and exciting to manage. The first thing you will want to nail down is what you are looking for. Ask yourself the following questions:

What do we like for sure?
What are we curious about and unsure we will enjoy?
What are we certainly not interested in trying at this point?
What scares us the most about this prospect?
What excites us the most about it?

It helps to write these down and don’t get too hung up on details at first, you can always change your mind later. Make a fun date out of it! Sit down with the person or people you want to explore your kinks with and spit ball some ideas. If nerves or inexperience are thwarting this process, do explore some online resources to see what is out there and available for you. My best recommendation is to look for providers in your area and check out their social media, blog, and whatever else they have created for their audience. Remember, just because something is shown on a business website or profile, does not mean it has to be part of YOUR scene. It just means it could be, if that was your interest.

 Part Two: Search

Once you have a better idea of what your ideal scene looks like you are ready to look for your perfect facilitator. So clearly time to hit the Google. But don’t stop there, check out the top social media sites too. You do not want to have your options garnished by the failure of a vanilla algorithm. Not every excellent domme is an excellent web developer, and most of us chose to build and host our own sites for privacy and flexibility reasons. Try a variety of search queries, as they could bring up different results, by pairing key words like “Dominatrix”, “Mistress/Master”, “BDSM session”, “Fetish Provider”, “Kink” etc with
your geographic location. 

 Here again, a little bit of foresight is beneficial:

Do our interests require an experienced and knowledgeable professional?

    This might seem like a silly question. Of course you want the most professional pro to help with your journey! But not all kinks are equally specialized. For example most providers who have undergone basic training can safely conduct a scene with easier activities such as foot fetish, erotic humiliation, or tease and denial. They do not need 10 years of dungeon experience to spit in your face. But if you are craving an intricate rope bondage scene with suspension, or the sting of a single tail on your back, it is probably best to carefully select a person who is not only experienced in BDSM but also adept at those particular activities. Look for examples of their work on their social profiles, perhaps in their fetlife account, and maybe spend $10-$50 on premium content of theirs where you are able to confirm that this is something they can help you explore, safely.

Are our interests covered by the provider we have found?

     Most providers work with all genders but every professional is unique in at least some ways, so be sure to check their limits and services. Most established providers will have a set list of “do not do”s somewhere on their website. Do not try to push those, if they don’t do it, they will not do it for new clients, no matter how sexy you are. Simply find a person who does offer your interest. 

     Tip: It may help you to know that most North American BDSM providers do not mix vanilla sex, like hand jobs or any type of classic sexual intercourse scenario, in their scenes. For those types of scenes you may find more luck with an escort who also practices BDSM. 

Will we be safe with them?

    This may just be the most important question you can ask yourself. From privacy to physical well being, you want the scene to be enjoyable from the start until the finish and after it is said and done. Remember that the adult industry is unregulated, and even with regulated businesses bad pro’s are unfortunately part of life. 

Signs that your choice is safe are: 

  • They have been practicing for five or more years and have little or no drama surrounding them.
  • They have a robust social media presence, on multiple platforms. *longevity of social media accounts plays a small role here as we get disabled disproportionately compared to vanilla businesses.
  • They have a strong network of other professionals they work with both locally and abroad.

How much will it cost? And how do we pay?

This is a good time to ensure you are able to budget this service. As of 2021 the North American industry standard rate for full BDSM services starts at $400 for a single client’s first hour. Couples and more specialized scenes could be priced higher and multi hour scenes could be discounted at the provider’s discretion. Payment methods for the adult industry are usually limited by the larger processors. Do not be surprised if their website lists less popular methods of payment like PantheonPay, SpankPay, or even gift cards for the deposit and then requests cash only for the balance upon meeting. This information is generally available on their website to make it easier for you to plan and budget your leisure so make sure you take all the time you need to familiarize yourself with the journey ahead. I promise it can only add to your excitement and anticipation and remove any potential surprises that would take away from the overall experience.


Contacting your Mistress of Choice

Okay but we are still nervous.

Nervous is good, take as many steps as you need. Here are some examples of steps you can take to build your confidence:

Book a consultation – Most providers will offer a phone or cam consultation for the cost of your deposit which then reserves your scene. So it is free to consult with them when you book after. This gives you a chance to ask questions, hear their words and intent, and get to know them a little more personally before it is time to exchange power. 

Register for a pay to chat service they may offer like sextpanther or nite flirt and ask them as many questions as you want, a la carte, for as long as you need, until you feel ready to book.

See if they offer a casual meet and greet scene where you pay for their time to just sit and talk about anything you need to get off your chest with no obligation or pressure to book.

Okay, we are ready, now what?

So you did your homework, discovered some new things about yourselves, found the person who seems most qualified and compatible to take you on a wild ride, and are beyond excited to do the damn thing already. Great, it is all downhill from here! 

Now that you have dotted all your “i”s and crossed all your “t”s it is time to contact them for your session. There are two ways to do this which are vastly preferred by practitioners in the industry:

Filling out an application: If they have an application on their website, it is guaranteed their preferred method of contact for a booking. We tend to put careful thought into those, walking you through all the details you may be too nervous to remember when writing an email. Take some pressure off yourself and just fill out the form! 

Composing an email: So maybe you are not that nervous and you hold pride in your composition skills. By all means, we love to be wooed with words. Here are some detrimental details you do not want to forget:

Your location – Many of us travel and may have ads in multiple cities, omitting this is sure to get a reply asking you to either fill out the application or provide your desired booking location.

Your availability – It may seem polite to simply ask for ours in an effort to be most accommodating, but the truth is our schedules are very dynamic and sometimes chaotic and it is simply easier to ask if we are available during any of your most convenient times.

Your interests and limits – although you will have a chance to discuss those immediately prior to the scene, it helps to have them in writing in your initial correspondence.

Your desired scene length or budget – It is up to you which of these factors is more important. But for planning purposes we need at least one of the two. 

What to expect

Provided your request was successfully received and did not raise any red flags, such as you blatantly asking for locally illegal or unavailable services, you can expect an email correspondence back within 3 business days or less. This does mean you want to plan your experience ahead and give at least a business week’s notice, especially if your availability falls during high demand times such as evenings or weekends.

This is by no means an all inclusive guide, but it should help steer you in the right direction. Questions are always welcome. You never know when something you asked could become the next piece to helps hundreds of readers just like yourself. 

Your lovely partner and I congregating about the faith of your immediate future.
Models Charlotte Brooke and Isobel Devi.

April 2021 Updates

Denver Dominatrix IsoDenver Dominatrix Isobel Devi in a red latex outfit.

New Toys:

My twin 4 ft single tails from Victor Tella are finally here! I am still conditioning them and learning how to use them, and I already love them. Every time I crack them I think of the many backs, asses, and cocks that will bleed for them in the years to come and I get a slight nipple erection, a nip-chub. The concept of whip virginity had not crossed my mind until now, and I am strangely excited by the curiosity of who will be the first I choose to strike with them.

New rubber bondage items have arrived in the mail. They will fit petite to average sized bodies. References to gear manufacturers who make more male sized items are appreciated from people with dm privileges. If you do not have dm privileges, contact me via fetlife with this type of chat.

Blackout Dates:

I am not available for in person or cam sessions April 9 – 11.
I will be taking some time off to spoil myself. If you want to help spoil me you can send something, big or small, via Pantheon Pay or Spank Pay , or text me on SextPanther to play via text, phone, exchange of pics and clips, or just ask how I am doing.

Travel:

I will be traveling to Dallas Texas April 22 – 24 and Austin Texas April 24- 26. As of April 6th 2021 the following time slots are still open for private scenes and video or photo bookings and collaborations.

Dallas

April 22 Fully Booked

April 23 4 – 10 pm remaining with an existing inquiry.

April 24 Fully Booked

I am staying in Downtown Dallas and plan to meet with Mistress Petra Hunter while in town. Booking a double with us is highly recommended.

Mistress Petra Hunter of Dallas Texas
Mistress Petra Hunter of Dallas Texas.


Austin

April 24 6 – 9 pm

April 25 1 – 11 pm

April 26 9 – 11am

While in Austin I will be hanging out with my good friend Carla X. She is not a pro domme but would be happy to join our session as an observer or to allow her to explore her recreational interest in BDSM with us.

Carla X of Austin Texas
Austin Performance artist Carla X.


Denver Availability:

As of April 6th 2021 this is my remaining availability for Denver Metro area appointments:

April 8th – 6 pm to 9 pm Only

April 12th – 10 am to Noon and 5pm to 11pm

April 13th – 11 am to 3 pm and 7pm to 11pm

April 14th – Noon to 2 pm and 4pm to 11 pm

April 15th – 6 pm to 11pm

April 16th – 4pm to 11pm

April 17th – Mostly Open

April 19th and 20 – Mostly Open

April 27th – After Noon Only

April 29 to 30 – Mostly Open

Sundays the 18th and 25th are possible to book with a minimum 4 days notice and $400 per hour tribute.

Video:

This month you can request Miss Petra Hunter or Miss Carla X to be in your custom video order. You can have videos with both of them, but not at the same time as they do not live in the same city.

New fetish videos are loading into my Clips 4 Sale every Tuesday and Friday, and in my IWC every Wednesday and Saturday. Be good and buy them as soon as they come out to help me onto the chart tops.

My YouTube channel is always free and features some fun pg clips and my new latex care and info series. New episodes every second Wednesday of the month. The next one will be out Wednesday April 14.

Premium Online Subscription:

The only affiliate site I currently work with to provide you with a (mostly) complete gallery of my art, behind the scenes content, and premium content, is OnlyFans.com/MissIsobelDevi . Currently my catalog contains:

327 Videos
3782 Photos
721 Posts

I update as I am able to, and can drop multiple posts a day or be quiet for a few days at a time. One premium clip is up for unlimited viewing from Friday at 6 pm to Monday at 6 pm every week. These are the upcoming clip showings for April:

9th – 12th “Stretched and Busted
16th – 19th “Mouth-Raping the Bondage Doll
23rd – 26th “Heavy Handed Spanking
30th – 2nd “Kicking The Cum Out of His Worthless Balls

Live Shows:

Many of you have asked me when live shows will return. It was a goal of mine to bring them back with more stability this year and I plan to resume them starting this Monday April 12th at 1pm – 4pm on only fans live. My plan is to start back up with one weekly stream and then add a second one that is free to view(not on only fans) in the near future. Your support and feedback on this project are appreciated. Look out for polls for stream themes on twitter and Instagram.

Xo

Miss Devi

Red look good one me, weather it is rubber or leather.
Denver Mistress Isobel Devi contemplating your faith.

Holiday Specials

Denver Mistress Isobel Devi in a black latex catsuit

I will be spending the holidays home in Denver, with no travel plans until January. It was my very intention to host a kinky holiday party this year but alas this is not in the cards. So I will give back to my loyal community in a way of holiday specials. Starting now and until January 5th 2021 the following session specials will be available to all accepted applicants:

3 Hour Bondage Bliss $600 (save $200) – Dive deeper into rope bondage with me. Explore advanced poses and work on your flight stamina. Good for beginners in good physical condition and people who want to take their bondage submission to a new level.

Sensory Deprivation and Abandonment $500 for 2 hours and $200 for each additional hour – You need to relax more. Let me take away the burden of choice and put you where you belong, in a neat package, tucked away until you are needed again. Spend some time immobilized in plastic, rope, leather, or rubber, and let the world around you vanish with the sounds and sights as I take control of your mind, body and soul.

30 minute sessions $250 – Yes! 30 minute sessions are back for a limited time. They are still bound by all standard booking protocols and only allow for a single scene such as ball busting, trampling, spanking, or foot worship only.

Worn Leather Boots

Dear slaves, creepers, and chronic-humpers, 

     Have you dreamed of being at My feet? Have you creeped My twitter and instagram, enviously bemoaning the distance which places you outside of groveling reach? Do you spend hours dreaming of being smothered by My leather boots? I bet you do, and I bet it’s a pathetic ordeal to watch…

     In the spirit of this Holiday I feel no connection with, I give you the exciting opportunity to almost worship My talented and superior feet, even if you live somewhere really far, and really boring.

     Behold, a pair of leather boots I have worn many times, to many filthy deprived places. Yum:

See them taken off My feet. – Boots have been worn many times and may bear the distinct scent of my perspiration. As is.

Buy My dirty old boots. Send $50 for US addresses and $75 outside of US addresses and email mailing instructions to IsobelDevi@Gmail.com – First come first served. Discrete packaging available.

The True Slavery Experience

Dominatrices Michelle Lacy and Isobel Devi welcoming their new slave.
“Come closer, meat.”

True slavery is not for everyone, but for some it is a treasured escape. Experience the harsh, unforgiving company of one, two, or as many mistresses as you think you can handle. The order of Indomitus estate is a sprawling BDSM paradise in the heart of South Florida, and kinky, unspeakable things, happen there all the time. 

Denver Dominatrix Isobel Devi directing a slave.
Show your Mistress what you are made of, slave.”

As I write this I am mentally preparing for the feast I will be blessed with on my next journey there in a few short days. Those who have booked their exclusive slavery experience with myself, and Mistress Michelle and I together, are in for a treat. One single slave serving two women is challenging enough without the added intensity of our voracious appetites for adventure right now. You may be rubbing feet for a while, you may be pulling pony carts, and you may be on full time leaf fanning duty in the florida sun, and those are only three exciting options. A three day experience can be packed full of mind blowing kink. Unlike events with lots of people, solo experiences are streamlined and efficient, opening up all kinds of opportunities for fun.

Mistresses Michelle and Isobel enjoying their day on the grounds.
“Mush! Forward!”

Come a shivering lump of flesh, leave a polished slave worthy of the soles of my boots. Slavery weekends are packed with educational bits that will improve your overall worth as a submissive in the scene and in your personal BDSM escapades.

Find out more HERE

To see dates still available for my upcoming trip go HERE

If you find that I have already booked up at your desired dates for this trip, consider flying me back for the ideal dates and time for you for a reasonable rate. Contact Me with your desires including your interests, limits, experience, and dates available.

Birthday Wishes

My birthday is on October 9th. I will be turning 34. Such an occasion calls for wild dancing, uncivilized behavior, and pain in the male groin. Celebrate with me, and offer your body to be used for a sacred occasion by two powerful deities, Mistress Nicci and myself.

Starting at 11:00 and ending at 18:00 on October the 9th 2020 select slaves will be permitted to join us for My private birthday party. Double domination and group environment scenes will be conducted during this time for the following activities only: Spankings, Foot Domination and Ballbusting. My frozen chestnut heart wants to play fun party games like last slave standing for ball kicks, trample cat walks, and spankings administered on a single ass, and in a single day, record breaking. I might even award prizes if I am very blown away by your patronage.

To apply for an invitation, email me with the following information:

Your full name, contact number, all availability between 11 – 18 on the 9th, and weather you prefer to see us privately or in a group setting with other kinky depraved slaves.

References are mandatory – if you do not have a reference you can book a cam or live session with either myself or Mistress Nicci to be interviewed and receive basic BDSM training specific to our style of Domination and needs.

The special tribute rate for my birthday is 30 minutes for $300 or 60 minutes for $500. We will both be present and interacting with you for the entirety of the session.

Gaping Gabriella’s Sissification Chronicles #1

Sissy Gabriella Ready for her Mistress

I have been having My bottom bitch, main squeeze, sluttiest slut of all cock holes, Gaping-Gabriella keep a very dirty diary of our debaucherous debacles. Here is the first entry:

“ Mistress Isobel told me to be owned as her sissy slut and knows as Mistress Isobel slutty bimbo whore Gabriella.  I was told to go shopping, pick out panties and throw away all my men underwear.  No longer to wear men underwear and always wear panties.  I got all sorts of panties to wear for my Mistress Isobel.  Thongs, G-string and bikini panties. Every day I am to send pictures of my panties I am wearing to my Mistress Isobel.

Tuesday, November 22, 

2016MISTRESS ISOBEL SISSY ASSIGNMENTThere are many steps to being a good sissy! Especially if I want to be Mistress Isobel sissy slut. Some of them are simple and some of them will take a bit more effort. But every one of these steps will bring me closer to the sissy I am meant to be! This will be thorough, detailed and very comprehensive changing your masculinity totally and completely! Each of these steps will lead you down the path of feminization and sissification. The introduction to the sissy steps will be taking under Mistress Isobel guidance and control! Mistress Isobel takes her training of her girls very seriously! One of the reasons is she wants to be proud to call me as her sissy slut Gabriella and proud to be My MISTRESS ISOBEL slut! This assignment will allow visual reminders that I am her sissy and will enhance my femininity and sissification! “

Next up, Gabby’s view as well as video proof of the misdemeanors.

Video and more clips on MissIsobelDevi.ManyVids.com

Girls are Evil

It is true, we are all a little blood thirsty; or a lot blood thirsty.

Certainly it is possible to curb misandry with logical thoughts of particular versus general fault, but where is the pleasurable gain in that? Not all girls relish in vivid fantasy of hitting guys where it hurts, but most do, and some love to indulge.

I am not addicted to ball busting, I simply demand it because I am a Princess.

Emasculating by blunt force is the tuning fork for My inner serenity and bliss. Catering to My madness requires dedication, and a resilient pair of balls. Know your place beneath My heel and accept every punch, kick, and whack with honorable subordination to your cause for your superior. 

Flamboyant masculinity sickens Me, and I will seek to correct it with a firm hand, and a committed foot, directly where it stems, at the odious well of libido between a mans legs. 

Surrender your unworthy dangly parts for My wicked indulgence. The screams of your torment are the elixir I seek for the vice which burns deep withing Me.

Denver Dominatrix Isobel Devi punishing a man
These things are broken or something. Maybe a couple of whacks will fix them.
Denver Mistress Isobel Devi punishing a man over her lap.
Regular spankings are not working on you, maybe spanking your balls will work best.

Swing

The swing-set is my favorite playground item. It is the feeling of weightlessness at the ends of each swing that spins My mind into a serene kind of frenzy. As I gained air and momentum, My white dress flared up to catch the wind. I stretched My pale little feet out as far as I could shooting up and then back. 

From way up high at the beginning of another exciting swing I spotted a man-boy approaching with his hands held wide as if to receive Me for a big embrace. He was statured like a man, but had the look of a boy; lightly freckled skin, perfect blue eyes. He was very near now, almost beneath Me, perhaps looking up My dress which  had taken to streaming behind Me like a long angelic tail. 

I saw his beautiful face arranged perfectly for kissing, and as My gondola of joy brought Me down to My cortier I dismissed it all for what appeared to be a target, right between his legs. It beseeched Me and I obliged, landing My tiny slippered foot right on the target. I felt the dull impact, like stepping on an expired wafer, against the body of My little foot. The squishy flesh beneath his crunchy gentleman pants gave way, almost enveloping its attacker. Simultaneously the impact sent him to his toes, his eyes widening to accept the gesture with stoic gratitude. 

My seat swung back sharply, pulling Me back on course against all physical reason. From the pinnacle I saw him again below Me, waiting, and I came down for another bull’s eye, laughing with maniacal pleasure as I descended. This time he became air borne, his face of masochistic bliss even more distorted, smiling at Me.

I kicked the man in the genitals again, and again until his head grew large with pressure like a balloon and finally burst, propagating a colorful shower of marshmallow candy bits. Each little sugar morsel melted into a gooey frosting as it rained down upon Me and the playground. 

A drowning sensation woke Me from My dream. Have you had any kinky dreams lately? Share them in the comments or if you are shy in a private conversation with me.

Torture…

When dealing with a sadist, torture can be quite inevitable. But why attempt such robbery to one’s self? Behind the complex fabric of our existence, delicate math erects the foundation of all that was, is, and will be. There are equalities and inequalities, and each is addressed respectively to derive the optimal result.

If you wish to make a sadist happy, because Her laugh is sweeter than any other poison to cross your lips, you will simply have to endure the torture which fills her black heart with glee. There are formulas for this, but My suggestion will be blind trust, for optimal benefit. I know you want to hurt for Me, as much I want to elicit the torment from your voice in chilling howls and desperate pleas. 

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